“I am in a relationship, and the challenge is in other people not understanding that we aren’t having sex.”
One of the biggest misconceptions about asexuality is that if you identify somewhere on the ace spectrum, you probably won’t ever be in a healthy, happy relationship.
Of course, that's simply not true. A lot of ace people date, get married, have kids, and all that other mushy relationship stuff. Meanwhile, some don't, and that's okay, too. Navigating relationships can be confusing and complicated for everyone — asexuals included.
Here are their confessions of love, heartbreak, and everything in between:
“I only ever had one boyfriend and we broke up due to my asexuality without me yet realizing I was ace. I just knew that I liked him and I tried to express that physically, but then I'd abruptly get uncomfortable, but not know how to express that. The mix of liking being with him but not always knowing what I wanted to do with him was extremely awkward and uncomfortable, and we finally decided to step back from the relationship for a while as I tried to figure myself out.
Now, I kind of have the opposite problem. I understand myself a lot better, and I want to have a closer relationship with someone, but I don't feel enough attraction to really know who to have that with. I'm pretty certain I only want emotional closeness, cuddles, and maybe kissing — but not sex.”